Let’s face it: parenting is not easy. And the pressure of societal expectations make the journey of being a parent feel like an uphill battle, as parents begin to feel they don’t fit into these seemingly achievable parenting strategies and approaches, especially when it’s segregated by gender.
Yet, despite the obvious underlying pressure, parenting can also be a wonderful life experience, where, as parents, you will always want what is best for you kids and provide them with the love and care they deserve. In this article, we will delve into 3 simple, and yet significantly impactful phrases, shared by Dr. Becky Kennedy, that you can say to your child today that will foster a stronger bond and enhance healthier communication dynamics.
1. «I’m glad you’re talking to me about this.»
Showing enthusiasm and care about what your child is communicating shows them you still love and accept them, even during touch times. Likewise, they hear: ‘my parent can handle this part of me’, which helps them feel safe to open up at the moment and on a future occasion.
2. «I believe you.»
Acknowledging your child’s feelings and telling them you believe what they are saying to be true allows them to feel seen and heard. On the contrary, saying things like «You don’t have to feel that way» or «You’re exaggerating», can imply you know their emotions better than they do. Which is deeply problematic because you want your child to grow up with a healthy agency over their emotions. What you don’t want is having other people telling them how they should feel when they grow up, hence it’s essential to let them process and reflect on their emotions from a young age and as a parent acknowledge what they are feeling without judgement.
3. «Tell me more.»
Encouraging your child to speak up builds connection, reinforces you believe them, and reassures them they are not alone when going through touch times. When they open up, have the genuine enthusiasm and undivided attention of wanting to hear more of what they are saying. When your child can share their experience with you, it eases the burden of going through it.
Parenting doesn’t come with an instruction manual, most of it you have to figure it out on your own, or perhaps with a little help of fellow parents, a self-help book, or even from an online article you happened to stop by.
Remember, what we say to our children is vital. Parent’s words becomes a child’s self-talk. Encouraging healthy communication and genuine empathy towards them can do wonders in fostering the beautiful bond you both deserve.
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